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Find your tribe, love them hard.

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Find your tribe, love them hard.

Hey mamas, here is to you !

Here is to you natural birthing, no epidural, breastfeeding, cloth diapering mama. Here is to you c-section, formula feeding, disposal diapering mama. Here is to you all organic, baby wearing mama. Here is to you jar food and pouches mama. Here is to you who is just like me.

I am a mama who breastfed my babies for 18 and 22 months.  I am a mama who co-slept with both my girls. I am a mama who believed in feeding mainly homemade food for my babies. But does any of  that really make me better than any of you? Absolutely  not!

We all are doing our best at this motherhood gig. All that truly matters is that mom and baby are safe and healthy, that there is an abundance of love and we are giving this life our best.

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Being a mother is hard enough, why divide ourselves? Why compare? There are days I struggle to get out of bed, stay in my pjs, yell and maybe even scream at my children all day and order pizza for dinner. There are days I put make up on, get my hair done, get dressed and feel like I can take on the world…until about lunchtime I realize, this stuff is hard, when is nap time. We are all just taking it day by day . The notion of being perfect in every single aspect of life is nonexistent to me.Why do we strive for something that is not even remotely possible?Is it the society who puts so much pressure on all of us? Or is it us who do that to ourselves?

We definitely cannot be the same person who have the cleanest house, with the smartest kids, traveled the world, seen things more than others have, maintains the perfect circle of friends, look amazing and flawless all the time, plan the perfect dinner parties yet succeed at work like a boss?We all can do our best and try to be good at one or more of these but you cannot master all this while raising a human being. If you can then you must be a super human being 🙂 . But most of us are far from it. I know I try my best to do good on some of these things but there is no way I am trying to be a perfectionist, it is not realistic to me. I have messy floors because I have children, not because I am lazy. I try as hard as the next person to pick up after them but some days I cannot keep up with them. As a mom I let a lot of things slide.

So instead of being so hard on ourselves, by diving ourselves into categories can we all form a tribe? Can we call motherhood a union of friendship, honesty and a common ground to come and lift each others up? Being a mother is SO hard but if you have the right people to share this with, you have yourself a village and it does truly take a village to raise a human being.

Can we just lift each others up and not compete? Let’s form a tribe and love them hard. We all know there is not a greater joy than being a mom but also it is the most challenging job there is. In order for us to succeed we need to find our tribe. A tribe is our circle who have the similar struggles and is always there to share their stories and lift each other up. I know in my circle of friends we share a lot of our stories, good and bad. We have our own unique connection. We cheer on each other and we also sympathize with the struggles. Can we all be better at uplifting each others? Absolutely! But I take this support and friendship any day  over standing alone and doing this motherhood job alone all by myself.

So do you have a tribe? A village that you lean on? If you do, do not let them go and love them deep!

XoXo,

PJ

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And this is why we travel !

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And this is why we travel !

Barcelona days“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails.  Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain

Probably one of my favorites, if not, my absolute favorite ever. It is a simple quote with such a powerful message. Us , human beings have been defying nature since the origin of time. We have been doing things that is not necessarily “normal”. That’s how we grew, we civilized and we learned. This behavior seems to simple yet it is so complicated.  So why stop now? This is the question I have been asking myself a lot lately and really trying to put things into perspective.

Having two kids so close in age, back to back took a toll on our overall well-being. It was mentally, physically and emotionally exhausting . But one thing we both promised ourselves is we will not stop to live our lives. It is so easy to get lost in their daily schedules and our own struggles but we refuse to do that. Yes, we are a normal parents who have to work hard and earn their way of life but we are also the parents who are healthy (so far) and physically capable of doing what we put our minds into. We may not have unlimited resources of anything but what we have is our willpower and our curiosity. We want to do things not because we have to but also because we want to. We want to see the world through our children as much as we can.

That is why we travel!

A lot of people have asked us if we have “lost our minds” when we travel with two kids in a tow. Yes it is not easy to travel with two little kids , yes it is not easy to set up a eating and sleeping schedule when your time zones are completely different from home but it is also not easy to stay at one place and not experience things. We may not be perfect but we want to get out and about and travel the world one country, one city and one continent at a time. We are not traveling family , actually quite far from it but we want out children to grow up thinking my parents did something right. They showed us the world even when we did not remember. I want them to say thank god we were introduced to various cultures and people and places which we can’t remember but somehow helped us shape the human being that we are today. That is what we want them to say. Also, travel does not have to be extravagant or expensive, you could just play tourist in your own city and explore as well. There are so many hidden gems around you, you just have to look. People think children thrive on routine, but we beg to differ. Not saying routine is bad, but for our family we do not believe in a lot of formal routine. Everything has been on-demand and spontaneous since they were little kids. So either it is good or bad, we still do it that way. Things may change when they grow a bit older but for now we will try and will try really hard to live an interesting life for them.

For your children, you are the most important people in their lives so why not include them on everything , if not , in most things that you do.

A lot of families have different priorities, they want to be more settled and explore when the kids are a bit older and that is also okay. I am not saying what we are doing is okay. I am only saying we do this because we feel like it fits our lifestyle and our kids’ personalities. I know a few of you have texted, emailed and messaged me on Facebook saying thank you for sharing our travel experiences with them and also asked for some tips and tricks. You know what? Those comments completely flatter me. I am so humbled to even give an ounce of encouragement to anyone who is struggling to muster up the courage to travel or do things differently than the norm.

We all need to remember WE are the grown up here, WE make the choices and WE make it happen. So let’s not wait for the right time to do anything, let’s just do it.

As I Mark Twain said in his quote above, you will probably regret NOT doing things in your old age than you actually did when you were young and able. For us it is travel and for you it may be something else. But let’s just do it and make it happen and let’s excite our children!

The recent happenings

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Hello world-

What have you been up to? It sure is a beautiful day out isn’t it?  Is it the “momtitude” on me that makes everything look so splendid that happens around me. I have heard about how being a mom changes your whole perspective on how you see things around you but did not believe too much of it but i am realizing the world around me is changing. Most things are changing for the better, but some of course are not. I may not have this positive attitude all the time due  to sheer exhaustion of raising two toddlers but I sure get this wave of appreciation for things around me every once in a while. So read on 🙂 .

Being a mom means you now have a whole lot of responsibility period! You also don’t know what self less love feels like until you have become a mom. You now have this tiny little person that you need to care for. Days become longer but years become shorter. It is just fun being a parent.

Of course, I don’t have a minute to myself. I don’t have a Pinterest perfect home. I don’t cook culinary delights anymore. My days/months are spent planning for their birthdays, their outfits for their school photos , heck their everyday outfits. I run around the house like a headless chicken trying to feed everyone and myself.  All I can say is it has been one heck of a ride (being a mom that is) and I wouldn’t change this for anything in the world.

I know it has been over a few months that I wrote a blog post. I just have had too many things going on. We just recently moved into a new house so talk about packing,unpacking, decorating, purging hit all at once and top it off with two toddlers and a dog (don’t forget my full time traveling husband). A has started to go to a Montessori school. I am especially excited about this as I wanted to see her prosper and thrive into a Montessori environment (hopefully). M has started to babble and talk up a storm and her favorite word? You guessed it- its NO!

Kids are doing great, Bella is still very much a puppy and growing healthy . Life has gotten a whole lot sweeter.

This post didn’t really have a solid weight behind this but I wanted to just fire off something at you all wonderful people since you haven’t heard from me in a while. So with one more promise to be frequent I am going to stop typing. Feel free to send me feedback and messages regarding anything you would like to read or see on my blog. For now, enjoy my insta feed- it sure is colorful there @pjmomblog 🙂 .

See you there!

XoXo

PJ

 

 

Birthday, Work and Instagram!

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Birthday, Work and Instagram!

Hello my Dear Friends,

I am SO over the winter blues and very ready for the nice and warm sunny rays. Aren’t we all though? Luckily, this week I will be able to enjoy some 60 degrees weather (close to 70s actually) and I am not complaining.

So what is new with me? We recently celebrated baby M’s first birthday. I know we all say it but seriously where did the year go? Just with a blink of an eye miss M is ONE year old and big sis A is now THREE! My girls are getting big and I cannot believe I actually did survive the first year of the second baby while going through the terrible twos of Miss A. I guess that would be my super power lol. What is yours?12322768_1302166389809983_769838979543513551_o

My work has gotten super busy. I worked from home 100% for the past 3.5 years (yep, super lucky there) and now I have just started to go to work 3 days a week and that has been a BIG adjustment for me and my family. I know I am still lucky enough to be able to work from home two days a week and when needed but I almost forgot how much work it is to actually get up at 6 am, take shower, style my hair (styling means blow drying and flat ironing ), to put on makeup, to pick professional clothes, pack some snacks for the road and so on. Phew. Oh the snack packing brings me to my most interesting point, my commute! From zero commute to now one way 50 miles commute is not fun, at all! Yep 50 miles each way. That is a whole lot of gas and mileage on my car and if you know the Capital Beltway, it is not the fun-nest road to drive on 😉 . Anyways- I have been trying to make that commute as my “me” time. I snack on some dry fruits and Kind bars, listen to the Kane show and gather my thoughts. I make ALL my big plans while I drive these days lol. It’s funny you actually start to enjoy the long drive some days (some days).

The other new thing that I have is I have started to use Instagram a LOT lately lol. I mean at least one post a day , which is a BIG deal in my books. I am trying to stay active on social media by putting more pics on IG that way I am still keeping in touch with you all. What? You haven’t followed me on IG yet? You have got to! My IG name is pjmomblog , simple 🙂 . Please follow me as I capture my cuties behind the iphone lenses. I have been trying to use a lot of hash tags to for the sake of visibility in the world of IG as well. So if you are up for keeping up with my babies’ shenanigans follow me right now.

Rest all is well, I will post Miss M’s birthday pics soon. Until then see you on IG.

XoXo

PJ

 

The year 2016 .

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Every year I make some resolutions for the new year- some I keep (loosely) and some I don’t. Without fail each year my goal has been (like many of yours’) to stay healthy and fit and may be lose a few pounds while I am at it.Well, I still have that goal and a few others. This year my primary focus is “organization”. For the past three years I have been so preoccupied with raising kids and working full time I have let go of a lot of things and things have really “messy”. When I say messy I am not only talking about my house. My house obviously probably will never be Pinterest perfect and clean (with two kids and a dog) but I am finally going to make an effort to take time to get my life a little bit less messy and a whole lot cleaner and organized.

Organized not necessarily mean the clutter in the house but in my life too. My crazy life will stay crazy for a while I am sure but I have decided I am not going to let that control my life. I am going to start prioritizing and following some sort of schedule and pattern for things. I am going to be the me that was before kids. I was much more organized and had time to take care of myself and my hubby. But having kids have taken a toll on me so I am going to work on some of these things.

I want to  try to focus on things that really matters to me. I am not going to wait for the perfect moment instead I will create a perfect moment myself. My focus will be my home, my family and me 🙂 . So I am going to try to stay on top of things. For example: this blog! I wasn’t very active in the last year but my goal is to get back on it and try to post as much as possible. The reason why I started this blog on the first place was to write. This was going to be my escape and somehow I didn’t do that last year. But going forward I want to make an effort of be very active on it.It definitely deserves some loving. So help me achieve that.

Since I just finished talking about my goals , I want to know about yours. What are your 2016 goals?

A Super Birthday Party !!

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A Super Birthday Party !!

Say what? A Super Birthday Party?

Yes. Indeed. A Super Birthday Party for my Super Girl A who turned THREE this week! I cannot believe how fast time is flying by. Only yesterday I was pregnant with A and now she is 3 and is FULL of personality.

A is so smart and so beautiful, it melts my heart. Her affection and love towards her little sister M is so sweet! I cannot thank god for giving me the most beautiful gifts. Anyways- we just celebrated A’s third birthday party and it was a success!

A asked for a Super hero party and she got it. She wanted to wear a red cape and she did. Hubby, myself and M took part and wore super hero shirts too. I did not want to do a traditional super hero party colors so I opted for pink/fuschia, teal, royal blue and lots of white and they all worked wonderfully ! God knows how many house of pinterest did I scour to come up with the perfect party for my perfect little girl of steel. Amazon Prime and Etsy were my best friends to get the goodies for the party from the outfits to the party printables.

Here are some pics from the party, enjoy them! Oh- I may do a detail posting about the items of the party but until them stay tuned 😉 . As usual dont forget to send me a quick note for comments/ feedback.

XoXo

PJ

November…

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Dear Readers-

Say what? Its November already? It really is November which means less that two months for this year to be over. Which also means my A will be THREE in January and my M will be ONE in Feb. Where did the time go? Wasn’t I just complaining about how hectic and busy my life is with a newborn and a toddler? Seriously, it is not fair. Time slips away from your hands as you get busy with life and start focusing on things that make your life whole.

So talking about birthdays, I have two birthday parties to plan for this year. I am still not sure how in the world I am going to find time to plan and assemble birthday parties. Also this is the holiday season so which only means I will be extra busy with the festivities. So between celebrating the everyday joys, celebrating the festivities and planning for the birthday parties while working full time and playing a full time mommy to two super active kiddos, I am in a very exciting situation 🙂 . God help me!

New things in life- hmm. So A is still going to school all five days (full time) and M is still home with me and my mommy. M has started eating solids and she is such a little piggy! She loves to eat (so far) ! So I will soon be posting some food pictures and ideas in the blog just like how I did for miss A. Also M is crawling everywhere and climbing up the stairs. She is such a fast moving little thing, just like her big sister. It amazes me how she is growing up so fast. A is now  a chatterbox – talks nonstop and catches us by surprise every time she opens up her mouth. She is learning so many things at school and just loves being a big sister (for the most part).

There are a few more exciting things coming up for us which I will share soon. So stay tuned. No not a third baby haha (just so we are clear).

I know I write every few months which is super frowned upon in the world of blogging but I don’t get much time these days to drop a few lines. BUT if you all give me some suggestions on what you would want to read about or want me to write I will try to do that and more frequently. So please suggest away 🙂 .

Have a fantastic holiday season, eat, drink and be merry 🙂

XoXo

PJ

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