Hey mamas, here is to you !
Here is to you natural birthing, no epidural, breastfeeding, cloth diapering mama. Here is to you c-section, formula feeding, disposal diapering mama. Here is to you all organic, baby wearing mama. Here is to you jar food and pouches mama. Here is to you who is just like me.
I am a mama who breastfed my babies for 18 and 22 months. I am a mama who co-slept with both my girls. I am a mama who believed in feeding mainly homemade food for my babies. But does any of that really make me better than any of you? Absolutely not!
We all are doing our best at this motherhood gig. All that truly matters is that mom and baby are safe and healthy, that there is an abundance of love and we are giving this life our best.
Being a mother is hard enough, why divide ourselves? Why compare? There are days I struggle to get out of bed, stay in my pjs, yell and maybe even scream at my children all day and order pizza for dinner. There are days I put make up on, get my hair done, get dressed and feel like I can take on the world…until about lunchtime I realize, this stuff is hard, when is nap time. We are all just taking it day by day . The notion of being perfect in every single aspect of life is nonexistent to me.Why do we strive for something that is not even remotely possible?Is it the society who puts so much pressure on all of us? Or is it us who do that to ourselves?
We definitely cannot be the same person who have the cleanest house, with the smartest kids, traveled the world, seen things more than others have, maintains the perfect circle of friends, look amazing and flawless all the time, plan the perfect dinner parties yet succeed at work like a boss?We all can do our best and try to be good at one or more of these but you cannot master all this while raising a human being. If you can then you must be a super human being 🙂 . But most of us are far from it. I know I try my best to do good on some of these things but there is no way I am trying to be a perfectionist, it is not realistic to me. I have messy floors because I have children, not because I am lazy. I try as hard as the next person to pick up after them but some days I cannot keep up with them. As a mom I let a lot of things slide.
So instead of being so hard on ourselves, by diving ourselves into categories can we all form a tribe? Can we call motherhood a union of friendship, honesty and a common ground to come and lift each others up? Being a mother is SO hard but if you have the right people to share this with, you have yourself a village and it does truly take a village to raise a human being.
Can we just lift each others up and not compete? Let’s form a tribe and love them hard. We all know there is not a greater joy than being a mom but also it is the most challenging job there is. In order for us to succeed we need to find our tribe. A tribe is our circle who have the similar struggles and is always there to share their stories and lift each other up. I know in my circle of friends we share a lot of our stories, good and bad. We have our own unique connection. We cheer on each other and we also sympathize with the struggles. Can we all be better at uplifting each others? Absolutely! But I take this support and friendship any day over standing alone and doing this motherhood job alone all by myself.
So do you have a tribe? A village that you lean on? If you do, do not let them go and love them deep!